God’s role in your family

Christians are encouraged to not worry much about worldly affairs. We must prioritize our relationship with God. To us believers that makes perfect sense. In family, you put your spouse importance over your children. That doesn’t mean you don’t love your children and that you wouldn’t give anything for them, it merely points to the fact that your children come and go, but you chose your spouse for life.

If your children come first and you’re spouse second, you will damage your very sacred relationship and by the time your kids move out and start a life of their own you will be left with someone who has become stranger to you.

You might be asking then where is God then in this priority list? Well, by the same logic your wife comes before your children, God comes before EVERYONE. Kids come and go, wife is here and stays with you for the rest of your life but God was with you before you were born, throughout your whole life and for eternity after that.

God’s plan for your family

What I said so far is not so hard to grasp compared with what I am about to say. Do not be hung up on your career, worldly successes, what you eat, where you live etc. Often we think we know the best what’s good for us and what do we need. In doing so we completely negate God’s will and His plan for us.

I know it is hard to reach and maintain such faith, because I too have struggled with it, a lot. I was really fixated on the job I want and a lifestyle I want and I didn’t want to give that up. That caused me to question God and move away from him step by step.

In wanting exactly what we set our mind to and not being willing to compromise in prayer we aren’t really asking God for help, we are asking it to fulfill our wishes, like some genie in a bottle. Let me try to explain with an example, let’s take these two prayers for example:

God, please nudge my boss into giving us a nice bonus this Christmas, I am in a really tight financial situation and really need more money to pay the rent and bills so I don’t have to beg or borrow money from others.

God, I am really struggling financially. I don’t know how am I going to pay the bills this month. I don’t know what is your plan and why I have to go through this hardship but I trust you. I want to serve you so help me see your plan for me so that I can overcome these hard times.

Both are solid prayers and I believe God is grateful for both of them and happy for our faith. However, the second prayer is much more open ended. In it we don’t cling to a possible solution of our problem, like the first prayer does, we are merely asking God to guide us out of our hardship whichever way He wants. You have to understand that we as humans are very limited compared to God. We can only see so much. In the example above we can only see a bonus at work or pay increase as a solution but God is not limited and can surely see much better solutions. God is also not limited by time, so he knows how certain things in life will affect us in the future whereas we can only assume.

So by being flexible in what we want God to do for us we are opening ourselves to receiving things we could never have dreamed of, things that God had intended for us from the beginning.

Does destiny exist?

Well… I believe it does, but destiny can mean different thing to different people so let me clarify further.

Since God has a plan for each of us then that means each of us have our own destiny. By being on the path towards our destiny we will find true joy, happiness and our connection to God will be stronger then ever because we will let Him guide us instead of having a “I’ll do it on my own” type of mindset.

What about our free will?

Great question, God has a destiny ready for you, it is here if you wish to accept it, it’s yours if you wish to give in to his guidance and let go the worrying of how such destiny gets delivered to you.

You have your own free will to chose to follow God, I don’t think anyone is forcing any destiny upon you, but I do think that whatever destiny God prepared for you is probably the best one, given the amount of power God possesses. To think that you, just a mere human, can form a better destiny then God almighty is pure ignorance.

So I shouldn’t ever ask anything specific from God?

Of course I am not saying that and there is a very good reason why, because you never know which chapters in your book of destiny God started with a phrase “As you wish”. What I am saying is that you don’t get mad at God for not granting you your wishes because He probably has something much better on His mind for you later on.

Conclusion

Try to be more open to God and ask him to reveal his plan to you. When praying I am not saying don’t ask for specific things, but maybe try to follow that up with words like this:

…, BUT if you don’t think that would be good for me I fully entrust you to do what you believe to be best for me right now.

Thank you for reading through the end and I hope my words resonated with some of you.