You often can’t choose emotions, but you must control them.

Some guy

The title says it all. There is nothing wrong with feeling unavoidable emotions, even the bad ones like anger, sadness and fear, but those emotions have to be controlled. For example, being angry doesn’t mean you can punch someone.

If you don’t control them, they will control you, or even worse, they will destroy you. Another thing is that you can blame your hormones for causing certain emotions, but you can’t blame them for a lack of control over them. Women quite often fall into this trap by blaming their cycle for their behavior. I understand why, it’s just what they’ve been taught, especially through movies and TV series. However, I believe that women should try to challenge that belief instilled into them through all those media.

Likewise, men must control their aggressiveness(I’m not saying all men do it, I am saying they must do it) and can’t blame high testosterone levels for it. Imagine if it was normal for men to be aggressive and angry most of the time by just saying “Oh, it’s just his hormones”. It’s not normal and shouldn’t be.

None of this is in any way negative speech about any of the two genders, just an appeal to both genders so that we can live in a healthier civilization.