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  • 10th March, 2025

    Parenting is a crash course in theology. You have someone made in your image who you love so desperately you can hardly stand it. But half the time they’re convinced you’re trying to make them miserable when everything you’re doing is actually for their ultimate good.

    Unknown

    Quite a long quote compared to what I usually post, but that’s why it doesn’t need much commenting. It says it all: how we view God is how little kids view their parents. We think God wants to control us for no reason when he is actually just protecting us from dangers we are not aware of.

    We’ve all been in this situation, either as a child or as a parent (or both): a parent forbids a child something and the child starts either crying or questioning the reason behind this new restriction (and of course can’t understand it). Then the parent says something along these lines: “You don’t understand it now but you will understand it later – when you grow up.”

    That’s why we can’t understand some of God’s rules, we are not mature enough, and we probably will never be mature enough in our lifetime. But that doesn’t mean we don’t have to follow these rules, as they are protecting us, we just don’t see it. By not following his rules we won’t be protected, and by the time we are struck by the consequence of our disobedience, it’s too late.

  • Should women be doomed to a stay-at-home lifestyle once married?

    Should women be doomed to a stay-at-home lifestyle once married?

    This is a tricky topic and can’t be answered with a simple yes or no. The best way to answer it is to state a few of my related thoughts to this:

    • I don’t believe such a lifestyle deserves to be phrased as “doomed to it”.
    • I think that a mother being home rather than going to work will be for the best (for the kids but for the family as a whole as well).
    • I think the economy should be set up so that it allows women who want to stay at home with their children to actually be able to do it. This is sadly not the case, prices of living are set in such a way that expects from you that your household has 2 incomes (one from each parent).

    So if you would ask me if it would be best for a woman to be at home, I’d say that in general, it is. However, unfortunately, I don’t think the economy would allow this, at least not for an average-income couple.

    I do think this is sad. I also think this situation or economic policy, whatever you want to call it, isn’t a coincidence. I believe it’s all a part of a major divide-and-conquer scheme. If you need to divide your people so that you can easily rule over them, what better way to do it than to divide the family?

    It’s hard for people to unite against the ruler if even the most basic form of community(family) lacks solidarity. How would you even build solidarity within a family if you barely see each other? If both of you work, you can hardly find quality time for each other, both of you are exhausted and have a ton of work to do once you come home from your job.

    Jobs mostly teach you to divide your work within a team. That’s why each worker is specialized in doing one thing (for example accounting) while somebody else does something else (marketing). You don’t expect your accountant to come up with a marketing scheme, or someone from sales to cook lunch every day and clean toilets.

    In a family, you are practically not allowed to have this kind of partition, even though it yields the most efficiency. It’s almost that you aren’t even allowed to mention the terms “gender roles” or “roles in the family”, as you will most likely be accused of patriarchy and/or degrading women.

    Conclusion

    What it boils down to is that you both need to work, you both need to take care of the kids, you both need to work outside the house, etc. I wish all those things weren’t a need but a want, because no wonder you don’t have time for yourselves as a couple, and no wonder a huge percentage of marriages end in divorce. God bless you all.

  • 9th March, 2025

    I can do all this through him, who gives me strength.

    Philippians 4:13

    God really gives incredible strength through faith and prayer. I’ve talked about my personal experiences with this when He gave me strength after a hard day at work to spend the rest of the day playing with my wife and daughter. You can find that here.

    When you think you’ve hit rock bottom, it can feel like there is no way out and that everything is hopeless; however, in those moments of despair, it’s essential to pause and ask God to guide you out, seeking His wisdom and strength. Trust that divine guidance can illuminate unexpected paths and provide you with the courage to rise above your struggles, reminding you that even in the darkest times you can find light through God.

  • 8th March, 2025

    You often can’t choose emotions, but you must control them.

    Some guy

    The title says it all. There is nothing wrong with feeling unavoidable emotions, even the bad ones like anger, sadness and fear, but those emotions have to be controlled. For example, being angry doesn’t mean you can punch someone.

    If you don’t control them, they will control you, or even worse, they will destroy you. Another thing is that you can blame your hormones for causing certain emotions, but you can’t blame them for a lack of control over them. Women quite often fall into this trap by blaming their cycle for their behavior. I understand why, it’s just what they’ve been taught, especially through movies and TV series. However, I believe that women should try to challenge that belief instilled into them through all those media.

    Likewise, men must control their aggressiveness(I’m not saying all men do it, I am saying they must do it) and can’t blame high testosterone levels for it. Imagine if it was normal for men to be aggressive and angry most of the time by just saying “Oh, it’s just his hormones”. It’s not normal and shouldn’t be.

    None of this is in any way negative speech about any of the two genders, just an appeal to both genders so that we can live in a healthier civilization.

  • 7th March, 2025

    I have fought a good fight, I have finished the race, I have kept the faith.

    2 Timothy 4:7

    In his second epistle to Timothy, Paul the apostle is imprisoned and sad because many people have deserted him. He senses that he will soon die a martyr death. In the next verse, he says:

    Now there is in store for me the crown of righteousness, which the Lord, the righteous Judge, will award to me on that day— and not only to me, but also to all who have longed for his appearing.

    He trusts in the righteousness of God’s judgment and forgiveness of his previous sins. As you probably know, Paul used to prosecute early Christians but later became the biggest apostle, probably the most responsible apostle for the early spread of Christianity.

    How nice would it be if we too could, in the face of death, say that we have fought a good fight, finished the race and kept our faith. What a peaceful way to die knowing you have served the Lord and are about to meet him.