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  • 3rd March, 2025

    Today’s quote is a in a little different format then usual, I’m just trying out something new.

    I am a big sinner! I got a civil marriage instead of a church marriage, had premarital sex, had a premarital child, disregarded God as someone not that important in my life but still believing in his existence, which I am especially ashamed of since it’s not like I didn’t know about Him; I knew, but I did it anyway.

    Since then I have repent, so did my wife, we did it together. We then decided to not have sex again until we get married in front of God. It was a big deal and a big change to our lifestyle, but it was our way of proving God that we really want change and to follow Him with all our hearts. Now do I claim to be a saint now? NO! Far from it, I still struggle, I still think about my past sins and feel remorse, even though I know that God has forgiven me, I haven’t fully forgiven myself for betraying him.

    Now… you might be thinking “What the hell does this has to do with today’s quote?” Well it was an introduction, a bit of context for what I really want to say.

    I know that article published today is very controversial and in it I even stated that I don’t care about it not being politically correct article. That’s true, I don’t, but I do want to clarify that I am not attacking anyone nor am I trying to tell people that there is only one correct way to sort out your life and only one correct timeline. I myself am not perfect nor is anyone else.

    Why does it bother me when people put career goals before family goals? Well it doesn’t bother me, what does bother me is that often times (from what I’ve seen around me) people talk about babies not as a blessing but as a terrible financial burden (among other negative adjectives). Why would that bother me? Well it is because this kind of thinking scares women from having children and leads them to decide to do one of the most grievous sins of all, abortion.

    For example, I have a very dear friend that is focused on college, studying medicine and I don’t think even the slightest that what she is doing is wrong. That is because I know what is her view about family and abortion, because I know she wasn’t brainwashed into thinking that abortion is healthcare and birth control, so I am not worried about her.

    I am worried about many others that are not like my friend, many others that would conduct such a sin. That makes me cry sometimes.

    Conclusion

    I am not trying to diminish anyone’s career or say that career is not important and only starting a family is. NO! I am just trying to spread a word that having children is a blessing, not a burden(regardless how tough it can be). I talk hoping someone who needs to hear this hears it, that no career is more important than an unborn child that you would kill it so that your career can be prosperous. You can still have a career without killing an innocent child and you definitely can choose not to have sex in the first place if child is not what you want.

    So I know my words are highly controversial, as is most of my website, but I just can’t care about that. I must call out a sin, especially when it is as grave as murder. Sorry, but I can’t go around the bush and sugar coat it in some politically correct statement. I am a sinner myself, but that doesn’t mean I shouldn’t warn about or call out a sin, especially when they are trying to justify it or sugar coat it.

    And to my dear friend I mentioned, if you ever read this, I hope you didn’t feel called out by my article. I think nothing but good about you and consider you to be a better role model then I will ever be even though you are pursuing a career right now whereas I am focused in creating my family.

    Link to the article I am mentioning: “Rethinking Family: The Case for Early Parenthood”

  • 2nd March, 2025

    The greatest sin is to think yourself weak.

    Swami Vivekananda

    Swami Vivekananda was an Indian Hindu monk who lived at the end of the 19th century and although our religious beliefs differ I must agree (to some extent) with his statement. Now, I don’t think I would call it exactly “the greatest” sin but it certainly is big.

    To think yourself as weak is in a way an insult to God, since He created us in his image. Don’t humiliate yourself. We shouldn’t be arrogant and it is good to be humble, but we must acknowledge the great power we possess, especially power we can achieve through prayer.

    Have a lovely Sunday everyone!

  • 1st March, 2025

    A trophy carries dust. Memories last forever.

    Mary Lou Retton

    I always adored this quote. Mary Lou Retton was an American gymnast so I believe she meant it literally, but I always understood it as in terms of big events like concerts. In my analogy the trophy would be pictures1, I was never a fan of taking long videos or a lot of pictures when visiting certain places or events.

    I realized that when I am focused on taking pictures I don’t fully enjoy the moment and the show, not to mention that those pictures never truly represent how great something was compared to seeing it live.

    My best example

    I can’t think of a better example for this than the airshows I attended. On those airshows there are hundreds if not thousands of visitors, most of them taking pictures with their phones, their eyes glued to their screens, but there are also these people called Spotters.

    Those are the people that have registered in advance for a spotter slot on the airshow and have a special area from which they can record and take photos. Keep in mind that those are skilled photographers with much better gear, so their work is of much higher quality then pictures taken with a phone(no matter if you have latest iPhone, Samsung or whatever, professional camera in front of a skilled photographer will always be better).

    Most of their work, if not all, will be publicly available. So you can see later professional photos and videos of something you saw live, if you take your own photos then later from them all you’ll see are mediocre photos of something you didn’t see live(and live show was 10x better) because your eyes were glued to the screen. I apply the same principle to concerts.

    Conclusion

    I apply this concepts of enjoying in what’s in front of me rather then taking pictures in almost every situation I encountered. I always prioritize making memories in such cases, then if I also have time for a quick photo or video, sure why not. For example when my daughter does something sweet I’ll first keep enjoying it and then only maybe after a few times she does it, when I’ve seen it plenty of times, I’ll grab a phone and snap a quick photo or two.

    I’m curious how do you perceive this quote other then literally? What first pops to your mind when reading it, are you like me or do you have your own interpretation of it?

    Have a lovely Saturday, my friend is getting married today so I am sure I’ll have fun tonight 🙂

    1. When I talk about pictures in this post I mean both pictures and videos ↩︎
  • Destiny, Free Will, and God’s Guidance

    Destiny, Free Will, and God’s Guidance

    God’s role in your family

    Christians are encouraged to not worry much about worldly affairs. We must prioritize our relationship with God. To us believers that makes perfect sense. In family, you put your spouse importance over your children. That doesn’t mean you don’t love your children and that you wouldn’t give anything for them, it merely points to the fact that your children come and go, but you chose your spouse for life.

    If your children come first and you’re spouse second, you will damage your very sacred relationship and by the time your kids move out and start a life of their own you will be left with someone who has become stranger to you.

    You might be asking then where is God then in this priority list? Well, by the same logic your wife comes before your children, God comes before EVERYONE. Kids come and go, wife is here and stays with you for the rest of your life but God was with you before you were born, throughout your whole life and for eternity after that.

    God’s plan for your family

    What I said so far is not so hard to grasp compared with what I am about to say. Do not be hung up on your career, worldly successes, what you eat, where you live etc. Often we think we know the best what’s good for us and what do we need. In doing so we completely negate God’s will and His plan for us.

    I know it is hard to reach and maintain such faith, because I too have struggled with it, a lot. I was really fixated on the job I want and a lifestyle I want and I didn’t want to give that up. That caused me to question God and move away from him step by step.

    In wanting exactly what we set our mind to and not being willing to compromise in prayer we aren’t really asking God for help, we are asking it to fulfill our wishes, like some genie in a bottle. Let me try to explain with an example, let’s take these two prayers for example:

    God, please nudge my boss into giving us a nice bonus this Christmas, I am in a really tight financial situation and really need more money to pay the rent and bills so I don’t have to beg or borrow money from others.

    God, I am really struggling financially. I don’t know how am I going to pay the bills this month. I don’t know what is your plan and why I have to go through this hardship but I trust you. I want to serve you so help me see your plan for me so that I can overcome these hard times.

    Both are solid prayers and I believe God is grateful for both of them and happy for our faith. However, the second prayer is much more open ended. In it we don’t cling to a possible solution of our problem, like the first prayer does, we are merely asking God to guide us out of our hardship whichever way He wants. You have to understand that we as humans are very limited compared to God. We can only see so much. In the example above we can only see a bonus at work or pay increase as a solution but God is not limited and can surely see much better solutions. God is also not limited by time, so he knows how certain things in life will affect us in the future whereas we can only assume.

    So by being flexible in what we want God to do for us we are opening ourselves to receiving things we could never have dreamed of, things that God had intended for us from the beginning.

    Does destiny exist?

    Well… I believe it does, but destiny can mean different thing to different people so let me clarify further.

    Since God has a plan for each of us then that means each of us have our own destiny. By being on the path towards our destiny we will find true joy, happiness and our connection to God will be stronger then ever because we will let Him guide us instead of having a “I’ll do it on my own” type of mindset.

    What about our free will?

    Great question, God has a destiny ready for you, it is here if you wish to accept it, it’s yours if you wish to give in to his guidance and let go the worrying of how such destiny gets delivered to you.

    You have your own free will to chose to follow God, I don’t think anyone is forcing any destiny upon you, but I do think that whatever destiny God prepared for you is probably the best one, given the amount of power God possesses. To think that you, just a mere human, can form a better destiny then God almighty is pure ignorance.

    So I shouldn’t ever ask anything specific from God?

    Of course I am not saying that and there is a very good reason why, because you never know which chapters in your book of destiny God started with a phrase “As you wish”. What I am saying is that you don’t get mad at God for not granting you your wishes because He probably has something much better on His mind for you later on.

    Conclusion

    Try to be more open to God and ask him to reveal his plan to you. When praying I am not saying don’t ask for specific things, but maybe try to follow that up with words like this:

    …, BUT if you don’t think that would be good for me I fully entrust you to do what you believe to be best for me right now.

    Thank you for reading through the end and I hope my words resonated with some of you.

  • 28th February, 2025

    Don’t wait. The time will never be just right.

    Napoleon Hill

    Life is chaotic and unpredictable, if you think you can plan most of it, you’re wrong. Life is like a game of chess, you are limited by how far into the future you can plan and often times you have to adapt your plan or even change it completely depending on the situations you encounter along the way.

    Just think about how much simple daily plans can be disturbed, let alone life plans like when to have children, when to marry, when to buy a house etc. There is no such thing as perfect timing, there is always something stopping you, dragging you, whispering in your ear “You shouldn’t do it just yet, maybe tomorrow.”

    Let’s cast those doubts aside and have a little more faith in ourselves (as well as in GOD) and give ourselves a little more credit. I won’t go too deep into this topic as I will be writing a more detailed article about this in the following days, so for now all I have to say is have a lovely Friday, hopefully your work week ended and now you have some time to rest over the weekend.