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  • Should women be doomed to a stay-at-home lifestyle once married?

    Should women be doomed to a stay-at-home lifestyle once married?

    This is a tricky topic and can’t be answered with a simple yes or no. The best way to answer it is to state a few of my related thoughts to this:

    • I don’t believe such a lifestyle deserves to be phrased as “doomed to it”.
    • I think that a mother being home rather than going to work will be for the best (for the kids but for the family as a whole as well).
    • I think the economy should be set up so that it allows women who want to stay at home with their children to actually be able to do it. This is sadly not the case, prices of living are set in such a way that expects from you that your household has 2 incomes (one from each parent).

    So if you would ask me if it would be best for a woman to be at home, I’d say that in general, it is. However, unfortunately, I don’t think the economy would allow this, at least not for an average-income couple.

    I do think this is sad. I also think this situation or economic policy, whatever you want to call it, isn’t a coincidence. I believe it’s all a part of a major divide-and-conquer scheme. If you need to divide your people so that you can easily rule over them, what better way to do it than to divide the family?

    It’s hard for people to unite against the ruler if even the most basic form of community(family) lacks solidarity. How would you even build solidarity within a family if you barely see each other? If both of you work, you can hardly find quality time for each other, both of you are exhausted and have a ton of work to do once you come home from your job.

    Jobs mostly teach you to divide your work within a team. That’s why each worker is specialized in doing one thing (for example accounting) while somebody else does something else (marketing). You don’t expect your accountant to come up with a marketing scheme, or someone from sales to cook lunch every day and clean toilets.

    In a family, you are practically not allowed to have this kind of partition, even though it yields the most efficiency. It’s almost that you aren’t even allowed to mention the terms “gender roles” or “roles in the family”, as you will most likely be accused of patriarchy and/or degrading women.

    Conclusion

    What it boils down to is that you both need to work, you both need to take care of the kids, you both need to work outside the house, etc. I wish all those things weren’t a need but a want, because no wonder you don’t have time for yourselves as a couple, and no wonder a huge percentage of marriages end in divorce. God bless you all.

  • Radical Labels: The New Weapon Against Traditional Beliefs

    Radical Labels: The New Weapon Against Traditional Beliefs

    Daily now I find people online (mostly in comment sections of certain videos/sites) calling everything radical right-wing extremists. What I’ve noticed is that such comments usually target anyone/anything that tries to unify a certain group of people, whether that be a family or a whole community.

    They use it as the easiest weapon of suppression, because if you don’t like someone just slap a tag on his face that says “Radical right-wing extremists” and that person immediately loses credibility. They are using the fact that people don’t know what that term means (otherwise they would disagree with such accusations).

    Far-right politics, often termed right-wing extremism, encompasses a range of ideologies that are marked by radical conservatism, authoritarianism and ultra-nationalism. Examples include Nazism and fascism in general.

    However, what you can see today is that for merely not aligning with mainstream ideas you will be called a fascist, extremist, radical, etc. You want to have kids and family and you don’t care about how that’s not popular nowadays. The insults will just keep coming from everywhere and now congratulations, sooner or later you will be labeled as a radical fascist.

    Nowadays, if you are a Christian and promote family values like roles within the family, accountability and family prayer, if you don’t support LGBTQ nonsense and don’t fuel their delusions, if you use your head and logic to question what those in power present to you as something that’s best for you, you are now an extremist and are a danger to society.

    If I say that abortion is murder of a baby within the womb, I will be declared a bigot, when it is a widely accepted scientific fact that life begins at conception1. I am portrayed(and people like me) as the evil man who wants to control the woman’s body by telling her what she can or cannot do. By claiming that, they forget that the baby is not a part of HER body, the baby has its own body and what people like me are doing is fighting for that baby’s body by claiming this “outrageous” fact that a woman doesn’t have the authority of her baby’s body, meaning she is not allowed to dismantle or in any other way terminate baby’s life.

    1. Biologists from 1,058 academic institutions around the world assessed survey items on when a human’s life begins and, overall, 96% (5337 out of 5577) affirmed the fertilization view.
      https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/36629778/ ↩︎
  • Rethinking Family: The Case for Early Parenthood

    Rethinking Family: The Case for Early Parenthood

    Hard topic!

    First of all, I was never a fan of the term “to settle down”, most likely because it is often used in such a bad tone. Often times it describes the part of life where you move from fun end exciting life to a dull and tedious life. I am most definitely biased to some extent and to me when someone says “I think it’s time for me to settle down” it just sounds like something that he/she doesn’t want but is doing it because everyone else is doing it.

    From the start I was of belief that being married is ten times better then partying around and now since we went back to God I believe it is 100 times better. Therefore I am not saying to you “Don’t have fun”, I am actually claiming that it is more fun to be married young then to party young.

    Example

    Let’s take two different couples and discuss them:

    First couple dated very little or maybe didn’t date at all prior to meeting each other, they met at 20, married at 23, first child at 24, that child is a grownup as the couple has only entered into their 40s.

    Second couple, both of them dated and fooled around with many people during their 20s, they met each other at 32, married at 35, first child at 36, that child is a grownup as the couple enters their 50s.

    For some simplicity we will stick to one child per couple for now. Out of these basic information you can really pull out a lot of pros of starting a family young.

    • Married young means less partners before the marriage which means less possible disease (although I encourage people to wait before marriage, I know most won’t listen so I am including this into the comparison as well)
    • You are more likely to be compatible young then in your 30s, because all of those earlier relationships have made an impact on you and standards you require from your partner raise until they become unrealistic. As we get older it seems to me ego rises and you become far less willing to compromise for a marriage, which makes marriage very hard.
    • In this example I used the same time it takes to go from meeting each other to marriage and to first child. In reality this time frame I used is much more likely to happen in the first couple’s case. As we get older not only is it harder to trust each other to consider marriage but it is also a lot harder to conceive a child.
    • You mature much faster when you have kids, because you don’t have a choice. You now have someone who clearly depends on you.
    • If you wanted to, you have much more chances of having more then one child if you start young and much more energy, quite self explanatory.

    These are some reasons on top of my head.

    But it was never a right time

    As the Daily quote page said three days ago “Time will never be just right”(link to specific quote). I promised in that post that I will dive deeper into that topic so here it is. I will talk about primarily having children, but most of the things can be applied to getting married as well as other things in life.

    To my understanding from what I see online and from what I hear from some of my friends, it is almost widespread notion in the western world to get all of you’re affairs in order like housing, career etc. before starting a family. Everyone seems to be waiting for the perfect moment when stars will align before they start a family. That is just outright ridiculous.

    The mainstream idea is that children are a burden, complicate life and you can’t achieve anything once you have them. That is not true. Now what I wonder a lot is who benefits from people believing these so called “facts”? It is almost like some taboo topic because I would immediately be classified as a conspiracy theorist and/or crazy for even questioning that these beliefs are not free will of the people but are actually imposed on us from young age by someone else who benefits from it.

    Don’t you think it is weird that nowadays people who stand for family values and want to live in a big and stable family are often labeled as extremists? I’ve even experienced it myself, well I haven’t exactly been called that way but I have shocked a lot of people when they found out how young I had children and that I will have more. Their shock was on the level as if I told them I was 15 with two kids, their shock actually often shocks me. It’s like, why wouldn’t I have kids while I’m young?

    What was I supposed to wait for, I found a woman I wanted to marry and have kids, what else is there to wait for except getting married. Disclaimer: We did have our first child before getting married, it was before we became firm believers and have repent and the Lord blessed us(we got married and now my wife is pregnant again).

    The consequence of starting a family at an older age

    At this link you can see a visual representation of how over the time the age of when mothers got their first baby changed over the past few decades (info is for US, but the similar trend can be seen in Europe as well). What is the broader consequence of that? It’s that families on average are smaller(counting the kids), fewer in numbers(married/family vs being single ratio) and less unified.

    All these things together can cause the country to collapse. For example, I read a few days ago a statement by European Commission how Europe needs additional 1 million migrants yearly to function (due to population aging). Why did that happen? It’s because people are discouraged to have kids and if one pair of people (man and woman) have zero or one child, population declines, two children and population stagnates, three or more and population will grow. Nowadays, all I hear from people(exceptions are rare) is either “I don’t want kids” or “I will have one, max two kids”. So now Europe is forced to import a lot of foreign people to meet its needs in the workforce.

    What kind of people is Europe importing? Mainly people from Africa, Middle East and southeast Asia. People of vastly different culture, religion and worst of all: not willing to assimilate. This is now destroying Europe and whoever follows events around Europe has seen what those immigrants are doing, unfortunately news outlets and other official media are rarely reporting on it.

    Just take a look at Sweden in example, once known as a quiet and peaceful country saw 32 bombings in January 2025 alone, that’s more than one bomb daily. Some of them are directly related to Islamic terrorist attacks while others to gang wars. I don’t think I even have to talk much about what is happening in Germany, France and UK. I saw multiple videos online of migrants from Middle East shouting on the European streets how they will take over the power. Shouting how they on average have 5-6 kids while we Europeans have 1 or 2, how we will be a minority and they will rule Europe. Do we want that? I don’t.

    Conclusion

    Don’t blindly follow the mainstream idea that children and family are something you should aim for in your 30s. You can call me biased but I look at the future of Europe and I am scared and sad, and what saddens me the most is the indifference of people when presented with facts and videos of what these illegal migrations are doing to us. If you don’t want kids, okay, but please don’t believe that it is impossible to have kids, even in early 20s.

    Most importantly, please stop judging people that have kids at an early age (if you are one of them, I am not claiming you are). Having kids at 20 is more biologically natural than having them at 30, it’s just that most people are brainwashed into thinking that 10 other things must happen before you have kids when in reality 3 things need to happen:

    • You must be willing to have them and to sacrifice some of your free time for greater good
    • You must find a good partner (which I believe is as hard as everyone seems to think, if you look at right places)
    • You must get married, which doesn’t have to be expensive

    I understand that some phrases and views I used might come off as offensive to some of you. To clarify, I am not calling out people for not having children, only to question a belief that it is not wise to have kids at an early age.

    Lastly, I am not a fan of political correctness(as you can tell by now) and the notion that every word you say must be wrapped nicely, because God forbid that someone gets offended. Political correctness is one of the reasons the world is a mess. For that reason I encourage everyone to dial down their political correctness (at least when speaking to me), you don’t have to be rude, but calling out on people’s BS should not be frowned upon.

    Daily quote linked to this article: 3rd March, 2025

    P.S. even the WordPress’s AI assistant is advising me to soften my language to resonate with larger audience aka. “You need more political correctness”. I don’t care if this posts preforms poorly. What use do I have from a post that skyrockets in terms of views if in it I am choosing my language carefully and saying what everyone else is saying. I believe that we should address what we think even if broader public doesn’t like our view. Otherwise, what’s the point? You would just be following a crowd.

  • Destiny, Free Will, and God’s Guidance

    Destiny, Free Will, and God’s Guidance

    God’s role in your family

    Christians are encouraged to not worry much about worldly affairs. We must prioritize our relationship with God. To us believers that makes perfect sense. In family, you put your spouse importance over your children. That doesn’t mean you don’t love your children and that you wouldn’t give anything for them, it merely points to the fact that your children come and go, but you chose your spouse for life.

    If your children come first and you’re spouse second, you will damage your very sacred relationship and by the time your kids move out and start a life of their own you will be left with someone who has become stranger to you.

    You might be asking then where is God then in this priority list? Well, by the same logic your wife comes before your children, God comes before EVERYONE. Kids come and go, wife is here and stays with you for the rest of your life but God was with you before you were born, throughout your whole life and for eternity after that.

    God’s plan for your family

    What I said so far is not so hard to grasp compared with what I am about to say. Do not be hung up on your career, worldly successes, what you eat, where you live etc. Often we think we know the best what’s good for us and what do we need. In doing so we completely negate God’s will and His plan for us.

    I know it is hard to reach and maintain such faith, because I too have struggled with it, a lot. I was really fixated on the job I want and a lifestyle I want and I didn’t want to give that up. That caused me to question God and move away from him step by step.

    In wanting exactly what we set our mind to and not being willing to compromise in prayer we aren’t really asking God for help, we are asking it to fulfill our wishes, like some genie in a bottle. Let me try to explain with an example, let’s take these two prayers for example:

    God, please nudge my boss into giving us a nice bonus this Christmas, I am in a really tight financial situation and really need more money to pay the rent and bills so I don’t have to beg or borrow money from others.

    God, I am really struggling financially. I don’t know how am I going to pay the bills this month. I don’t know what is your plan and why I have to go through this hardship but I trust you. I want to serve you so help me see your plan for me so that I can overcome these hard times.

    Both are solid prayers and I believe God is grateful for both of them and happy for our faith. However, the second prayer is much more open ended. In it we don’t cling to a possible solution of our problem, like the first prayer does, we are merely asking God to guide us out of our hardship whichever way He wants. You have to understand that we as humans are very limited compared to God. We can only see so much. In the example above we can only see a bonus at work or pay increase as a solution but God is not limited and can surely see much better solutions. God is also not limited by time, so he knows how certain things in life will affect us in the future whereas we can only assume.

    So by being flexible in what we want God to do for us we are opening ourselves to receiving things we could never have dreamed of, things that God had intended for us from the beginning.

    Does destiny exist?

    Well… I believe it does, but destiny can mean different thing to different people so let me clarify further.

    Since God has a plan for each of us then that means each of us have our own destiny. By being on the path towards our destiny we will find true joy, happiness and our connection to God will be stronger then ever because we will let Him guide us instead of having a “I’ll do it on my own” type of mindset.

    What about our free will?

    Great question, God has a destiny ready for you, it is here if you wish to accept it, it’s yours if you wish to give in to his guidance and let go the worrying of how such destiny gets delivered to you.

    You have your own free will to chose to follow God, I don’t think anyone is forcing any destiny upon you, but I do think that whatever destiny God prepared for you is probably the best one, given the amount of power God possesses. To think that you, just a mere human, can form a better destiny then God almighty is pure ignorance.

    So I shouldn’t ever ask anything specific from God?

    Of course I am not saying that and there is a very good reason why, because you never know which chapters in your book of destiny God started with a phrase “As you wish”. What I am saying is that you don’t get mad at God for not granting you your wishes because He probably has something much better on His mind for you later on.

    Conclusion

    Try to be more open to God and ask him to reveal his plan to you. When praying I am not saying don’t ask for specific things, but maybe try to follow that up with words like this:

    …, BUT if you don’t think that would be good for me I fully entrust you to do what you believe to be best for me right now.

    Thank you for reading through the end and I hope my words resonated with some of you.

  • Embracing Children at Church: A Personal Story

    Embracing Children at Church: A Personal Story

    Personal story: Sunday mass

    When my wife and I first started going to church regularly, we would usually leave our daughter with her grandma. That continued until a priest once advised us to try involve our daughter as well. We accepted the challenge, even though our daughter is quite energetic child.

    Most Sundays it was quite hard keeping her calm and being focused on the mass at the same time. I started to question the point of taking a small child to mass. It seemed to only have caused the lack of focus for both of us and people around us.

    Then something beautiful happened a few weeks ago. During the priest’s homily1 my daughter (and some other kids further away) were constantly making some noise. It was not catastrophic, the priest could still be heard easily, but it was enough to make you feel embarrassed. I also felt like I am being rude for not listening to what the priest was saying. Then, just as I was feeling guilty for not being focused on what the priest was saying, he said something I will never forget. He was talking about children in his homily and then concluded:

    “…and as I am talking,every Sunday, I constantly hear cries and laughter of children within the church.”, as he gestures with his hand in my general direction, “But I don’t mind, praise the Lord that that’s the case, for the Church in which you cannot hear baby’s cry is a dead Church.”

    Him saying that made me cry of joy. Honestly I was also a little stunned as to how haven’t I realized that sooner. As he was saying that the bright sunbeam through the blue tinted church window put my face into spotlight. He continued:

    “…and those parents here with kids probably didn’t hear most of the things that were said here today, but it doesn’t matter. You are doing a far greater thing by being focused on your kids then being focused on me. I like that more.”

    After he said that I was really freaked out for a second. That random beam of sunlight focused in my face’s direction and the priest seemingly reading my mind really felt unreal. Tears were running down my blue tinted face and it felt like I was being hugged.

    Conclusion

    You could call it a mere coincidence, but I won’t. That moment proved to me that God is around me and in me. It proved to me that he is listening and understanding. He is always ready to hold me up when I am about to fall.

    1. A homily (from Greek ὁμιλία, homilía) is a commentary that follows a reading of scripture,[1] giving the “public explanation of a sacred doctrine” or text. ↩︎